Made for each other

Meet the city’s most love-struck couple.

Each person has a different idea of romance, but at the core, it involves doing something to express your love for another. Models Jessica Gomes, 28, and Neeraj Surana, 28, are one of Kolkata’s lovestruck couples. They’ve been together for nine long years, but time has not diminished their feelings. Jessica and Neeraj met when she had accompanied her older sister, Nicola, to a fashion show.

They were at Incognito, the nightclub at Taj Bengal (now closed). “I was with my sister and her friends when Neeraj joined us. I liked his innocent looks,” recalls Jessica. The couple started meeting frequently. “I wasn’t keen on a long-term relationship initially. I had my wild phase and it took me some time to settle down,” says Neeraj. Needless to say, the couple has been inseparable ever since, making sure they spend time together every day, either at a party, a fashion show, over an evening coffee or on boat rides at Babughat. Neeraj, a fitness manager at Gold’s Gym, starts his day at 6 a.m. by driving to Jessica’s home at Lake Gardens.

Tyson and Buzzer, Neeraj’s two dogs, wait eagerly for him to take them for a walk. Neeraj, who is from a Marwari family, can’t keep the pets at home, and so they live with Jessica. “Her place is like a second home, so that’s a safe place for them,” he smiles. Jessica also has a busy schedule— she runs grooming classes at the Frankfinn Institute of Airhostess Training—but she makes it a point to meet Neeraj almost every day. The couple remains out till late at night at favourite hangouts like Someplace Else, Underground or Shisha.

Jessica is friendly with Neeraj’s parents, but his grandmother has reservations about their relationship. “We are strict vegetarians and my grandmother needs her time to adjust to our relationship. We respect and understand her feelings,” says Neeraj. Though they are demonstrative of their affection, the couple is not over-the-top; holding hands or a tight hug is, often, enough. They also don’t believe in expressing their love only on a particular day or occasion. Neeraj often sends a bouquet of flowers and box of chocolates to Jessica, for no tangible reason. “Surprise gifts bring us closer. We look forward to seeing each other more. But we also know where to draw the line,” says Jessica.

The two are all set to get married in 2010. “Each relationship has various phases and we have grown and matured as our relationship has continued. Now it’s time to write another chapter of our lives, as we plan to get married next year. We complete each other and it’s time we start spending our lives together,” says Jessica.

Five things Jessica likes about Neeraj:
• He is caring
• He is loving
• He is disciplined
• His sensitivity
• His simplicity

five things Jessica likes About Neeraj:
• He is caring
• He is loving
• He is disciplined
• His sensitivity

Five things Jessica dislikes about Neeraj:
• He’s tardy
• He’s a spendthrift
• Too organised
• Over-possessive
• No foresight

Five things Neeraj likes about Jessica:
• She has foresight
• She is caring
• Great company
• An excellent cook
• Time management

Five things Neeraj dislikes about Jessica:
• She’s headstrong
• Indisciplined
• Plans too much
• She’s disorganised
• Too stressed out

Romancing the stars - Raj Shroff

RAJ SHROFF, 31,FASHION DESIGNER

What is . . .
The movie that sets the mood?
Right now, Vicky Christina Barcelona, with the deliciously beautiful Penelope Cruz in it.

The most romantic destination you have visited?
You can’t touch Venice in the romance category.

A romantic way to be woken up?
I’ll be most happy to be woken up with a kiss on my eyes.

Idea of romance
After a hard day’s work, I’d like to sit on a lawn under the moon and stars and chill with someone special to me. We’ll talk about everything except work and have a lazy evening.

Favourite gift
A special friend in Mauritius sent me a box with seven or eight of my favourite perfumes, and another box with perfumed candles, and the whole thing was packaged with rose petals.

Dream wedding
It would have to be in a place like Marbella beach in Spain. The view would be incredible. There would be a shack serving great food and just 10-12 people who are special to me.

Perfect nightout
I like the idea of really long walks. If it’s a holiday, then long walks on the beach at night when it’s really dark, with the water glistening in the moonlight.

Romancing the stars - Shuti Shibulal

SHRUTI SHIBULAL, 24, ENTREPRENEUR AND RESTAURATEUR

What is . . .
Your wooing style?
Through food. Is there a better way?

The movie that sets the mood?
Love Actually, a beautiful, fun movie that showcases all aspects of love.

The most romantic destination?
Coorg, especially when it is raining lightly. It makes the rest of the world fade away.

Idea of romance
My idea of romance is not sappy love or chocolates or flowers. Romance to me is witty conversation, sharing special moments, and enjoying life together.

Showing affection
Affection is something private, which is what makes it special for me. When I care about someone, it’s just natural to show affection.

Favourite Gift
My friends and family mean the world to me, so when my significant other understands and embraces that, there could be no greater gift.

Perfect nightout
A perfect nightout would involve dinner at an intimate restaurant where we could try something new and unique together.

Romancing the stars - Chetan Kumar

CHETAN KUMAR, 25, ACTOR

What is. . .
The movie that sets the mood?
Singing in the Rain, My Fair Lady.

A romantic way to be woken up?
Hindustani instrumental music and a pair of affectionate hands massaging my neck and back.

The most romantic destination?
The Swedish island of Gotland in the summer. Its plush landscape and effervescent locals make it idyllic.

Idea of romance
A natural, comforting intimacy between two people. Scripted notions such as moonlit walks or candlelight dinners seem cinematic and lack that personal touch.

I would use the element of surprise, and time and creativity—write an affectionate poem, cook for her or string a bracelet for her with beads.

Showing affection
As someone who enjoys pinching little cheeks and petting stray dogs, I display affection readily. I credit this to my parents, who loved each other, and us kids,unconditionally.

Perfect nightout
It would be a night in. Begin with great conversation over Darjeeling tea and a “Bird” Parker jazz record, and then curl up and take turns reading Joseph Conrad’s The Secret Sharer .

Romancing the stars - Mayuri Upadhya

What makes these charismatic personalities go weak in the knees?

MAYURI UPADHYA, 30, DANCER

What is. . .
The movie that sets the mood?
Fool Rush In

Your idea of a romantic wedding?
At dawn or dusk, next to a river bed, hymns, and celebration.

The most romantic destination?
The Himalayas. I think it’s the ultimate.

Idea of romance
It could be anything. Holding hands during a movie, tight hugs from my husband after a good show, sharing a cup of tea when it’s raining. Simple expressions of love and great companionship.

My wooing style
It’s changed with time. At the moment, I would give him a chance to miss me. Then follow this up with good food, humour and, of course, ‘the look’.

Showing affection
I’m extremely moody. Being an artist, I look on it as my birthright. But when I’m in a good mood, there’s no stopping me. Which means I can be very affectionate and demonstrative.

Romantic spot
I’ll be happy if someone can find one for me in this city today. But, it doesn’t actually have to be a physical space for me, because the weather is always playing cupid for us.

Hot spots

SHEESHA SKY LOUNGE

New bit: A great place for alfresco dining.

What’s hot: All the regular ingredients for a good nightout— flair bartender, open kitchen and Moroccan décor spice up this lounge.

Go to: 2nd floor terrace, Daila Estate, Provogue House, near Fun Republic, Veera Desai Road, Andheri (W).

Call: 61426311 for reservations.

COCOBERRY

What’s new: Frozen yoghurt in all kinds of flavours.

Cough up: Prices range from Rs 59 to Rs 249.

What’s hot: For better taste, ask for toppings of dry or fresh fruits.

Go to: 11, Gasper Enclave, CTS No. 861/C, Pali Market, Pali Naka, Bandra (W).

Call: 67258572.

PURO BAR & KITCHEN

New bit: The multi-cuisine menu blends European and Mediterranean tastes.

Dig into: Munchies like tangy chicken nuggets and jalapeno poppers.

Go to: Hotel Metro Palace, 355, Hill Rd, Bandra (W).

Call: 26431234 or 26442200.

NIKASHA

What’s new: This is designer Nikasha Tawadey’s flagship store.

What’s hot: Blockprinted tunics, chikan salwars, and more. Edgy meets ethnic here.

Go to: 4, Pandurang Vilas, Linking Rd, Khar (W).

Call: 9892216393.

GIZMO GLAMOUR

Tag yourself

The brand lives up to its name yet again. The new collection from Tag Heuer 2009 comprises Grand Date, Tiger Woods limited edition, the Grand Carrera and the Monaco Python, among others.

Price: starts at Rs 1 lakh.

Timeless beauty

Inspired by diving watches, these sporty timepieces combine the reliability of Swiss quartz calibre movement with the delicacy of crystal.

Swarovski presents its new watch range, Octea Sport, which can be worn on a metal bracelet or a soft rubber strap enhanced by six-faceted crystal.

Price: starts at Rs 28,000.

GET THE LOOK

Designer Ravi Bajaj shows you how to make heads turn on that crucial first date.

First date for ladies
Wear something that you feel good in. It should be safe and sexy, and could be anything from a pair of jeans with a top to a fitted dress.

Bling factor
Sport delicate earrings and a neckpiece with your clothes. Don’t overdo it. Simplicity is the trick.

Not too high
Avoid uncomfortable stilettos on a first date. Choose medium or wedge heels. Match the shoes with your clothes.

Pick the LBD
Have the figure to carry it off? Then go for a sexy little black dress. Try a chiffon sari if you are more comfortable in Indian clothes.

Fashion for the eyes
Don’t forget your sunglasses for a daytime date. They not only protect your peepers, they look stylish too. The big ones are in now.

EXPERT TALK

Varsha Bhawnani, a Mumbai-based wardrobe consultant, owns a store called Vinegar in Bandra. She gives us some expert tips on what to keep in mind when dressing for a date.

• Wear something neutral and smart.

• For a date night, wear dark colours. Carry a casual air. Act like you’re out with friends. It helps to ease tension.

• Wear colours that suit you. There’s no need to follow trends.

• Avoid highheeled shoes.

• If you have to go shopping, check for what you need so that you know what to look for. Don’t buy uncomfortable clothes. The uneasiness will show on your date.

• Women should carry a nice handbag. Men can wear a nice belt to accessorise.

• Don’t experiment too much with your hair.

• Men can wear a good pair of jeans; women love those.

Get personal

Add zing to the regular heartsand-flowers routine by giving your partner a custom-designed gift, and earn those crucial brownie points. Simply Mumbai tells how to make your gifts more thoughtful than expensive. Let your imagination run wild.

LIMONA BOLLYWOOD POSTERS

Parisians Sarah Loosdregt, 38, and Sophie Legoubin, 38, started Limona studio in Mumbai in 2004, after a visit to tinsel town.
What: Old-school, painted Bollywood posters, with your faces instead of, maybe, Shah Rukh Khan and Kajol’s.
How you can customise: Choose a film poster and send your pictures. Plus side: Make your beloved feel like a star.
Quirks: Posters with proposals.
How much: around Rs 9,000.

Where: orders to be placed at limonastudio@gmail.com. This email address is being protected from spam bots, you need Javascript enabled to view it

GITANA BRACELETS

A spunky trio of 24-year-olds, Sanjana, Samidha and Shrishti, launched the label two years ago.
What: Custom-made metal charm bracelets with colourful ribbons. How you can customise: Take any symbol of your relationship and have it cast in metal.
Plus side: The originality in the designs is a winning formula.
Quirks: Handcuff-shaped charms.
Most popular: The devil and angel charms, jelly-like glass heart charms.
How much: Rs 450 to Rs 950.

Where: At Butter, Pali Hill, Bandra.
Tel: 9820603861.

PANCHATATVA

Shraddha, 29, and Abhishek Goyal, 30, started Panchatatva after their marriage in 2006.
What: Wooden, banana fibre and coconut shell wallhangings and curios.

How you can customise: They can turn anything of symbolic value to you into a unique hand-crafted gift.
Plus side: You can suggest changes before the final product is made.
Quirks: A wall-hanging with the words. ‘Marriage is not a word. It’s a sentence—a life sentence.’
Most popular: Matching footprint frames that read ‘sole mates’.
How much: Between Rs 300 and Rs 5,000.

Where: Veena Vihar, Sion (E). Log onto www. panchatatva.com to make bookings.

HARSHA KILACHAND’S BREAKFAST BASKETS

Harsha Kilachand, 33, specialises in European cuisine. Her menu includes ‘Mexican profiteroles’ and an ‘Iced rainbow soufflé brownie torte’.
What: Breakfast baskets, elegantly decorated, will be delivered to your lover’s address.
How you can customise: Order his/ her favourites.
Plus side: The menu is 14 pages long, so the choice is more than your palate can imagine. You can even surprise him/ her with a picnic basket.
Most Popular: Her dip-jars, ranging from sun-dried tomato to blue cheese, along with the delectable cinnamon chocolate mousse cake.
How much: Starting at Rs 1,500.
Where: Shahnazeen, Khareghat Colony, Babulnath.
Tel: 9820033996.

Worth a thousand words

Trendy yet timeless, these gifts speak for themselves.

Celtic love knots: An ancient symbol of love, where two threads interweave, like two lives, to forge an unbreakable bond. The tangled knots are symbolic of the unsolved mystery of love.

Claddagh ring: Togetherness, love, loyalty—that’s what this Irish faith ring denotes. Its the perfect gift for your beloved.

Solitaire ring: Dignified, this ring is rich with symbolism: the prongs holding the sparkling stone symbolise the love a couple hopes to share lifelong.

Swarovski rose: Poets swoon over it, lovers swear by it. And if you want to say it with flowers, you can now immortalise this symbol of love. Go for a delicate red crystal rose, a la Swarovski that won’t wither.

Heart pendant: Some wear their heart on their sleeve. Wear yours around your neck. If any symbol conveys a message without saying a word, the heart is the ultimate metaphor for bonding.

Charm bracelet: Fixated on lucky charms and symbols? This silver charm bracelet should do the trick.

[by Pankti Mehta]

Test your romance quotient

1. Do you believe in love at first sight?
A. Not at all
B. Maybe
C. Definitely

2. Do you remember your first kiss?
A. Vaguely
B. Some details, yes, but I don’t sit and think about it
C. In great detail. I still think about it regularly

3. How do you woo your love interest?
A. A phone call once a week
B. Invite him/ her to a candlelit dinner
C. Slip a note saying, ‘I Love You’, in his/ her jacket pocket

4. What is your idea of a romantic nightout?
A. Dessert out with friends
B. A movie and take-out at home
C. Candlelit dinner followed by a long drive

5. What would you consider to be the most romantic way of popping the question?
A. Whisper it in his/ her ear while watching a movie
B. Write a poem and dedicate it to your beloved
C. Hike up with him/ her to a hilltop and propose

6. Do you surprise your partner with sudden gifts?
A. Not really. We both don’t like surprises
B. Sometimes. We tell each other what we are buying
C. Yes, often. I love the look of surprise on his/her face

7. Do you save love letters that were sent to you?
A. I haven’t kept most/ any of them
B. I’ve kept the ones from the special people in my life
C. Yes, I keep them safely tucked away in a special place

8. How do you react during a romantic scene in a movie or a novel?
A. I’m indifferent either way
B. I enjoy them sometimes
C. Get a bit misty if it’s well executed

9. Accept a bad gift from your lover with a smile?
A. Never. I politely explain that I didn’t like it
B. I accept it, but don’t use it—to show that I don’t like it
C. Yes. It’s a gesture of love

10. Are you the first one to say sorry after a fight?
A. No
B. Maybe
C. Always

If you scored
Mostly As: You need to pull up your socks and make some serious effort to enhance your romance quotient.
Mostly Bs: Congratulations! You’re navigating the sometimes choppy waters of romance very well on your own.
Mostly Cs: You are a true-blue romantic. Perhaps you need to rein in your romantic impulses a bit or be sure that your partner is in tandem with you.

Compiled by Nandini Narayanan, Shruti Chauhan & Sharmi Ghosh Dastidar

The Love gurus

From VJs to RJs, everyone is in the business. Maulik has a fight with Priya and calls in to a radio station asking for advice.

Subhash is in love with a girl from his school and calls in to a TV station to help him propose to her. Love gurus abound on TV, radio and, of course, in the real world.

The age of the Internet has changed our lives instantly through websites, blogs and flurried online activity where people can communicate with each other whenever they want. Simply Mumbai speaks to three people who have made love their professional calling.

Read about:

• Love gurus - Deepti Gujral
• Love gurus - Kalindi Badola
• Love gurus - Savio de’Silva

[by Maithili Chakravarthy]

Love gurus - Deepti Gujral

DEEPTI GUJRAL, VJ

Deepti Gujral stepped into the very popular shoes of Malaika Arora-Khan as the host of Loveline Reloaded on MTV along with Cyrus Sahukar. Seated on a couch, Gujral lends a sympathetic ear to distressed callers.

Why she thinks shows like Loveline Reloaded work: People like advice given without judgement. There are things they can’t discuss with friends or parents. A third person, especially someone who is anonymous and unbiased, offers a clearer perspective. “People would rather talk to someone they’re comfortable with.”

The most common problem she has come across: Men are usually shy to ask a girl out because they fear rejection.

Her solution: To try and bring people together by helping them confront their issues on the phone. “I tell them that if you don’t try, you will never know. Communication is a key ingredient.” Her weirdest love problem: When someone called in telling her he was in love with her. She didn’t know how to react and it was an awkward moment on air.

What people should avoid in a relationship: Judging each other too much. “Don’t judge the other person. Accept them the way they are.” Most often, she says, problems start when one expects one’s boyfriend or girlfriend to change.

Love gurus - Kalindi Badola

KALINDI BADOLA, RJ

In the business for two-and-a-half years, Kalindi Badola hosts a show called K on Big FM every night. Listeners can call in asking for advice on on how to appease an angry boyfriend or girlfriend or to just plainly vent.

Her USP: Badola’s is a non-judgmental voice on radio; she is a friend and confidante, someone you can relate to. People can safely tell her their darkest secrets. She won’t tell you what to do but wants you to arrive at your own decisions. “There’s no right or wrong.”

Kalindi’s most common love problem: People are often unable to accept it when the other person is not in love with them, or is unable to reciprocate. The tendency is to push things to the extreme by trying to force oneself on the other person.

Her solution: To tell people that one can’t force love. Running behind someone you love is not the solution. The more forceful you are, the more likely it is that the other person will not want anything to do with you. “Don’t irritate people. It usually doesn’t work,” says Kalindi.

Why she thinks shows like hers work: With FM-enabled mobile phones, it’s easier to access the outside world in private. The SMS generation finds it easier to vent to an anonymous voice that won’t judge them. ‘Confessions with K’, one of the show’s segments, is all about wild confessions that you can’t discuss with a friend or a sibling.

Love gurus - Savio de’Silva

SAVIO D’ SILVA, RELATIONSHIP COUNSELLOR

A relationship counsellor for seven years, Savio D’Silva loves to meet people, discuss their problems and get to know them better. He enjoys interacting with people from different walks of life and is a great listener.

His most common problem: Extra-marital affairs and situations where couples have trouble with their in-laws.

His solution: He often asks couples to spend quality time together, to go away on a vacation, where they can discuss their problems and reduce miscommunication.

One of his weirdest love problems: A client once sought his advice because he hated something his wife cooked and had been eating it for eight years pretending to like it. He flung it on her face one day because he couldn’t take it anymore.

How he thinks the idea of love and relationships has changed over the years: The media has played a vital role. People are more exposed to magazines and newspapers today, all of which have changed their idea of love. The greatest impact has been in the cities, where there are more live-in couples. Relationships are more open today.

What’s most difficult: Switching off from a client’s problems. “It’s difficult for me to go back home and forget about everything. At times I relate it to my life.”

Love struck - Jitish and Reena

JITISH, 35, AND REENA KALLAT, 36

The Kallat couple are widely recognised for their master strokes on canvas. Their romance blossomed when they studied together at art school, and a 16-year relationship has decorated their individual lives.

Both have had successful careers, and see each other as partners, not competitors.

For Jitish			For Reena
Jitish’s answers	Reena’s answers		Reena’s answers	Aamir’s answers
Masoom	Masoom	Favourite film	Iqbal	Iqbal
Travel, take a romantic walk at night	Travel, look at art together	Idea of a perfect date	Going down memory lane, revisiting the past	Relish art together
Laurentian Mountains of Quebec	London	Favourite holiday destination	Laurentian Mountains of Quebec	New York, Laurentian Mountains of Quebec
Indigo	Indigo	Favourite restaurant	Indigo	Samovar, Indigo
“She didn’t have time to make me something on my birthday, so she took a sponge, stuck gold drawing pins in it, tied a nice ribbon around it and left it on the table, to make it look like it was a gift!”	“I made him a long scroll installation on red carpet, with lots of writing about love. It was candlelit and decorated with red roses and silver-plated.”	Most romantic thing he/she did for the other	“I made a beautiful book out of flat seashells, etched important notes, dates, and other things onto the shells.”	“I used to slip her notes under the door when we shared a studio, and I think that was very romantic, but she used to get so irritated as she didn’t like being disturbed!”
Jitish’s score on Lovemeter:3		Verdict: Both might not know everything about each other, but they still are on an equal footing.	Reena’s score on Lovemeter:3

Love struck - Hussain and Tina

HUSEIN, 31, AND TINA KUWAJERWALA, 30

College sweethearts Tina and Husein’s strong relationship was first brought to light in the TV programme Nach Baliye 2.

Until then, Husein was a TV actor, but Tina was out of the limelight. After winning it, Tina, too, stepped into the TV world.

The duo anchored the show’s next season and she designed their outfits herself. They dated for nine years marrying in 2005.

For Husein			For Tina
Husein’s answers	Tina’s answers		Tina’s answers	Husein’s answers
Hrithik Roshan	Hrithik Roshan	Favourite actor	Amitabh Bachchan	Amitabh Bachchan
“I used to lose my patience, but have calmed down.”	“She used to lose her patience a lot earlier.”	Most annoying habit	“His eating habits really annoy me!”	“My eating habits get on her nerves. But I’ve improved.
New Zealand	New Zealand	Favourite holiday destination	New Zealand	New Zealand
Mangi Ferra	Mangi Ferra	Favourite restaurant	“He loves ordering kebabs from Kareem’s.”	“I love kebabs, and Kareem’s has the best.”
“During Nach Baliye, she threw a party and we had a Christian-style wedding. It wasn’t a special day, but she dressed up in this beautiful white gown and invited about 80 people.”	“I think the most romantic thing I did for him was to participate in Nach Baliye!”	Most romantic thing he/she did for the other	“He got the diamond on my ring increased without telling me.”	“I got the size of the diamond on her ring increased as a surprise.”
Husein’s score on Lovemeter:4		Verdict: Both are almost attuned to each other, though Husein just misses the mark.	Tina’s score on Lovemeter: 5

Love struck - Aditya and Divya

ADITYA HITKARI, 32, DIVYA PALAT, 29

These contemporary theatre artists two have sustained a 14-year relationship which stemmed from their common passion for the stage.

They met at the St. Xavier’s College’s festival, Malhar, competing against each other, and started dating a few weeks later.

Married three years ago, they are busy with their production company called Balancing Act.

For Aditya			For Divya
Aditya’s answers	Divya’s answers		Divya’s answers	Aditya’s answers
Pretty Woman	Pretty Woman	Favourite film	The Godfather series	Godfather
“She’s a workaholic!”	“I work too hard at nights. Our fights centre around it.”	Most annoying habit	“He’s obsessed with football! His life revolves around it.”	“I think my obsession with football annoys her.”
“She loves formal candlelight dinners.”	“It would have to be a formal, 5-star meal!”	Idea of a perfect date	“It has to be a combination of movies and good food.”	“Movies and dinner.”
Souk	Souk	Favourite restaurant	Trattoria	Trattoria
“It was my birthday, and she kidnapped me and took me to Kovalam for a really romantic trip— she had a lot planned.””	“I took him to a beautiful resort in Kovalam for his birthday, and I had a whole collection of films to watch in the night—he’s a complete movie buff. I also booked us for the massages there.”	Most romantic thing he/she did for the other	“On my last birthday, he made it a month-long celebration, with different things every day. There were flowers, a band, a video of all my friends talking about me; it was very sweet.”	“A month-long celebration of her last birthday. I had a band serenade her at midnight, made a film with all her friends in it, and did various little things to surprise her.”
Aditya’s score on Lovemeter: 5		Verdict: Perfect score. It can’t get better than being so completely in sync.	Divya’s score on Lovemeter: 5

Love struck - Aamir and Sanjeeda

[by Pankti Mehta]

AAMIR ALI, 32, SANJEEDA SHEIKH, 25

Ali and Sheikh, an affable couple most famous for their landslide victory in the highly popular TV programme Nach Baliye 3, have been dating for almost four years now.

The actors met each other at a common friend’s party. Marriage is on the cards “not very soon, but soon enough”.

For Aamir			For Sanjeeda
Aamir’s answers	Sanjeeda’s answers		Sanjeeda’s answers	Aamir’s answers
Bombay	Bombay	Favourite film	Agneepath	Agneepath
“She repeats each thing a hundred times!”	“I guess I repeat each story ten times over!”	Most annoying habit	“He keeps biting his nails!	“I’m short-tempered and that ticks her off.”
Dubai and Goa	Dubai and Goa	Favourite holiday destination	Dubai, Goa and London	Dubai, Goa and London
Zaffran	Zaffran	Favourite restaurant	Zaffran	Zaffran
“I have always been very interested in photography, so she bought me a professional camera.”	“When I bought him a professional camera.”	Most romantic thing he/she did for the other	“I was shooting in Mauritius and he came unannounced and surprised me. That was really very romantic.”	“I flew down to Mauritius to surprise her once.”
Aamir’s score on Lovemeter: 5		Verdict: Aamir knows his woman through and through. Sanjeeda misses by a whisker.	Sanjeeda’s score on Lovemeter: 4

Around town

Pumpkin patch
What’s new Clothes for kids of all age-groups— infants to early teens. Cough up Rs 300 up. Try out Trendy tops and gypsy-style frilled skirts for girls. Boys can opt for smart tees teamed with cargos. Where to go South City Mall, 375, Prince Anwar Shah Road. Call 40072257.

Dance Gala
Enjoy a dance festival organised by the Pandit Durga Lal Memorial Cultural Society on July 10 at Kala Mandir. Some of the artists are Rini Aich, Arushi Mudgal and Malobika Mitra. From 6.30 p.m. At: 48, Shakespeare Sarani.

Daily Global Treat
Imagine tasting food from a different country each day of the week. The action is on at Waterside Cafe, at Hyatt Regency, this month. Sample Mexican delicacies on Mondays, Lebanese on Tuesdays, Mediterranean on Wednesdays, East-Indian delights on Thursdays, Chinese on Fridays, Thai on Saturdays and European fare on Sundays. Call 23351234.

Visit for
Want to give your room a makeover? Visit the new store by Neha Singh.

What you get
Bed covers, quilts, cushions, lounge covers and curtains that are very stylish.

Cough up
Cushions cost Rs 275 upward. The bedcovers are priced at Rs 3,000.

Where to go
Allenby Road (opposite Forum Mall). For more details, call 65258081.

Fun on horseback
The Calcutta Polo Club is introducing a two-week polo clinic to promote the sport and make it accessible to all. The clinic will highlight the fundamental rules of the game and improve the riding and polo skills of those who participate. The batches will be small to ensure personalised attention. For more information, call 22174353 or visit www.calcuttapolo.com.

Charpoy
Look out for furniture pieces with classic as well as contemporary designs, done up with foil, fur, leather and swarovski crystals. cough up the prices depend on the piece chosen. bed sets start at rs 65,000. where to go 32, orphangunj road, opposite taj bengal hotel. call 32488006.

Oxford
Check out their new collection of items made with recycled material. The bookstore is going eco-friendly all the way.

What's in store:
Photo frames, cushion covers, lamp shades and more.

Where to go: Oxford Bookstore, 17, Park Street.

Cough up: Prices range from Rs 48 to Rs 5,000.
Tel: 44035455.

Gizmo alert

Sparkling success
Tag Heuer rolls out its range of luxury cell phones. With 7.4 carat diamonds, all finely set in rows along the angled sides of the phone’s body, with some framing the display screen, the Meridiist Diamonds is a winner, hands down. Ladies, this is a must-try. Price: Rs 2.4 lakh.

Pink charmer
It’s stylish and it’s pink. Tag Heuer’s luxury range, Meridiist, has a watch for everyone. All you gadget goddesses can watch out for this steel phone range with a pink alligator leather finish. Price: Rs 2.18 lakh.

Tag yourself
The brand lives up to its name yet again. The new collection from Tag Heuer 2009 comprises Grand Date, Tiger Woods limited edition, the Grand Carrera and the Monaco Python, among others. Price: Rs 1,00,000 onwards.

Timeless beauty
Inspired by diving watches, these sporty timepieces combine the reliability of Swiss quartz calibre movement with the delicacy of crystal. Swarovski presents its new watch range, Octea Sport, which can be worn on a metal bracelet or a soft rubber strap enhanced by six-faceted crystal. Price: Rs 28,000 up.

Sexy food

Here’s our choice of natural aphrodisiacs to sex up your platter and love life.

Berries, oranges, lemons
The acknowledged antioxidant effects of the vitamin C present in these fruits help protect sex organs, keep them operating smoothly, enhance arousal, sensitivity and orgasms.

Figs
It is said that humans could live on figs alone—such is its nutrition and goodness value.

With natural sugar and 80 per cent water, figs can help relieve stress, fatigue and insomnia.

Olive Oil, almonds, avocados, hazelnuts
A diet rich in these will enhance potency, drive and fertility.

Green olives make men more virile, while black ones increase women’s sex drive.

Onions
They may smell bad, but they increase your libido. Peel off the white layer, crush and fry in pure butter.

This is an excellent aphrodisiac tonic if taken regularly with a spoonful of honey on an empty stomach.

Dates
Dates are said to be a factor behind the abundant libido of Middle Eastern men.

Regular intake of dates soaked in honey is a libido booster. It is an excellent source of iron, which strengthens the ovulation process.

Pumpkin, flax and sunflower seeds, cashew and pine nuts
They all contain zinc, a key mineral necessary to maintain male potency.

They also build sex hormones and are generally good for sexual wellness.

Get the look

Fashion designer Ravi Bajaj shows you how to make heads turn on that crucial first date.

First date for ladies: Wear something that you feel good in. It should be safe and sexy, and could be anything from a pair of jeans with a top to a fitted dress.

Pick the LBD
Have the figure to carry it off? Then go for a sexy little black dress. Wear a chiffon saree if you are more comfortable in Indian clothes.

Watch out
In case you are dressing up in Westerns, stick to a watch with a leather band. A metal band or a bejewelled piece can be jarring.

Bling factor
Sport delicate earrings and a neckpiece with your clothes. Don’t overdo it. Simplicity is the trick.

Walk in style
Avoid uncomfortable stilettos on a first date. Choose medium or wedge heels. Match the footwear with your clothes.

Men, take note
Men should wear the right attitude, shoes and perfume for a date. The jeans-andwhite shirt combo is evergreen. For Indian wear, choose a chikan kurta with churidar. A casual kurta with denims will do if you are in the Indo-Western mood.

Fashion for the eyes
fashion Don’t forget your sunglasses for a daytime date. They will not only protect your peepers, they look super stylish too.

Attitude matters
A man should wear his attitude to floor his partner. If you are not sure about the right colours, neutrals are the safest bet.

Not too high
Avoid uncomfortable stilettos on a first date. Choose medium or wedge heels. Match the shoes with your clothes.

Made for each other

Each person has a different idea of romance, but at the core, it involves doing something to express your love for another. Models Jessica Gomes, 28, and Neeraj Surana, 28, are one of Kolkata’s lovestruck couples. They’ve been together for nine long years, but time has not diminished their feelings.

Jessica and Neeraj met when she had accompanied her older sister, Nicola, to a fashion show. They were at Incognito, the nightclub at Taj Bengal (now closed). “I was with my sister and her friends when Neeraj joined us. I liked his innocent looks,” recalls Jessica. The couple started meeting frequently. “I wasn’t keen on a long-term relationship initially.

I had my wild phase and it took me some time to settle down,” says Neeraj. Needless to say, the couple has been inseparable ever since, making sure they spend time together every day, either at a party, a fashion show, over an evening coffee or on boat rides at Babughat. Neeraj, a fitness manager at Gold’s Gym, starts his day at 6 a.m. by driving to Jessica’s home at Lake Gardens

Tyson and Buzzer, Neeraj’s two dogs, wait eagerly for him to take them for a walk. Neeraj, who is from a Marwari family, can’t keep the pets at home, and so they live with Jessica. “Her place is like a second home, so that’s a safe place for them,” he smiles. Jessica also has a busy schedule— she runs grooming classes at the Frankfinn Institute of Airhostess Training—but she makes it a point to meet Neeraj almost every day.

The couple remains out till late at night at favourite hangouts like Someplace Else, Underground or Shisha. Jessica is friendly with Neeraj’s parents, but his grandmother has reservations about their relationship. “We are strict vegetarians and my grandmother needs her time to adjust to our relationship.

We respect and understand her feelings,” says Neeraj. Though they are demonstrative of their affection, the couple is not over-the-top; holding hands or a tight hug is, often, enough. They also don’t believe in expressing their love only on a particular day or occasion. Neeraj often sends a bouquet of flowers and box of chocolates to Jessica, for no tangible reason.

“Surprise gifts bring us closer. We look forward to seeing each other more. But we also know where to draw the line,” says Jessica. The two are all set to get married in 2010. “Each relationship has various phases and we have grown and matured as our relationship has continued. Now it’s time to write another chapter of our lives, as we plan to get married next year. We complete each other and it’s time we start spending our lives together,” says Jessica.

five things Jessica likes about Neeraj:
• He is caring
• He is loving
• He is disciplined
• His sensitivity
• His simplicity

Five things jessica dislikes about Neeraj:
• He’s tardy
• He’s a spendthrift
• Too organised
• Over-possessive
• No foresight

Five things neeraj likes about Jessica:
• She has foresight
• She is caring
• Great company
• An excellent cook
• Time management

Five things neeraj dislikes about Jessica:
• She’s headstrong
• Indisciplined
• Plans too much
• She’s disorganised
• Too stressed out

[by Sarbani Sen]

Romancing the stars

What makes these charismatic personalities go weak in the knees?

JOHANNE MANTOSH, 21 RESTAURATEUR

WHAT I S . . .
The most romantic gift you have received?
A scrapbook.

The film that sets the mood?
Love Rules!

A romantic way to be awakened?
A nice, cold, intimate kiss.

The most romantic place to meet someone in Kolkata?
A boat ride at Babughat in the evening.

Idea of romance
A special feeling that keeps you inspired, always. It is something that an individual needs to experience and can never be communicated in just so many words. That is my idea of romance.

Dream wedding
A wedding is the beginning of a new life. I would give a personal touch to the décor, without splurging too much. It’s a special occasion and has to be made memorable for the guests.

Expressing Affection
There’s no pattern. Sometimes it’s too easy and sometimes it’s not. But I don’t want to be predictable. I would like to keep the fire burning and react according to a particular situation

Ideal Nightout
Go to a fancy restaurant and enjoy a bowl of ice cream, preferably green tea or banana and caramel flavours. And continue talking till the wee hours of the morning.

RANADEB BOSE, 21 CRICKETER

WHAT I S . . .

Your wooing style?
I would go to any extent, as I don’t believe in being egotistical when it comes to my special someone.

The most romantic destination you have visited?
Venice.

The most romantic place to meet someone in Kolkata?
The poolside area at Park Hotel.

The film that sets the mood?
Notting Hill.

Romantic Gift
I was in London for a match and someone special had arranged a holiday exclusively for me. That holiday turned out to be quite memorable. It is the most romantic gift I have received till date.

Idea Of Romance
When the heart and the head differ from each other and, finally, the heart rules the head. A wonderful feeling that makes you go weak in the knees for the special someone. It is an incredible feeling.

Dream Wedding
I am in favour of the big fat Indian wedding. I love the huge, seven-day wedding affairs hosted by the non-Bengali communities, where everyone is in the mood to enjoy and have fun.

Ideal Nightout
A perfect way to spend some quiet hours with my beloved would be to hold hands and go for a leisurely walk on a beach in Goa, say, after 1 a.m. We would just talk for hours and no one would disturb us.

ARIJIT DUTTA, 36 MD of PRIYA CINEMA

WHAT I S . . .

Your idea of a beautiful wedding?
A wedding with just the two of us.

The most romantic gift you have got?
My son, Agnivesh.

The film that sets the mood?
The Sound of Music.

Romance Is
Sitting on a riverbank and watching the sun go down. The ambience of such a place creates romance between two individuals.

Wooing Style
I am not much for wooing my significant other. For me, it would rather be, ‘Take me the way I am or leave me.’ That is how I am different.

Expressing Love
Depends on the situation. If I am at a big social do, I can’t demonstrate my affection. In a small gathering, I am a different person.

Romantic Place
Kenya. I had been there in 2007 and Kenya’s ecotourism set-up fascinated me. In Kolkata, a boat ride together can be romantic, too.

NEEL DUTT, 29, MUSICIAN

WHAT I S . . .

The most romantic destination you have visited?
Paris.

The film that sets the mood?
Notting Hill.

A romantic meeting place in Kolkata?
Crowded streets of central Kolkata.

Wake-up call
Someone would prepare a nice breakfast for me and give me the good news: I don’t have to go to work. That would be really romantic.

Wedding do
A celebration with friends and relatives that would continue for a couple of days. No lavish ceremonies. That’s romantic for me.

Romance is
Romance is everywhere. Be it in music or in sitting alone in the hills, I get the feel of romance everywhere.

Express love
That’s not difficult. If I like someone, I would express my affection freely. But I have never wooed and I won’t do it in the future either.

TRINA NILEENA BANERJEE, 28, THEATRE ARTIST

WHAT I S . . .

The most romantic destination you have visited?
Paris. I love the place around Sorbonne University.

The film that sets the mood?
The French Lieutenant’s Woman, Possession and Nayak.

A romantic way to be awakened?
With a perfect cup of Darjeeling tea.

Idea of romance
It’s more about non-verbal communication, and spending time with someone who can read my silence. If I had to woo anyone I would arrange for a surprise gift. But, in the broader sense, it’s friendship and understanding that I value.

Expressing affection
Usually, I am very expressive and have no inhibitions when it comes to showing my affection. But the difficult part for me would be to get into the very feeling of romance. I am a very calm person and rarely react.

Dream wedding
As of now, I don’t believe in the institution of marriage. But some day, when I would get married, it would be in front of a small gathering. Good food and close friends should be imperative to celebrate the special day.

Best gift
On an ordinary afternoon, my former boyfriend had put a bright yellow flower with a long stem on my desk. He had made my day extraordinarily special and a truly memorable one. That was perhaps the most romantic gift I have received.

[by Sarbani Sen]

Pocket-sized dates

Ideas for dates in budgets of all sizes and shape.

Maybe money can’t buy you love, but it sure can help in making the moments unique. But, often, your wallet does not allow you to fulfill all your wishes. You might even be suffering from bankruptcy, not of money, but of ideas.

What can be the ideal way to spend a day together, as a couple? We put together some options that will make your day special, no matter how much you end up spending.

RS 1000000 DATE

Option-1
With such a budget, it’s time for luxury. And your options are plenty. Surprise your sweetheart with a trip to a fancy resort, where you will be sure to have a romantic break from the ordinariness of daily life. Even a cruise, perhaps?

Option 2
Time-tested gifts can never go wrong. Why not buy a diamond set and watch that thousand-carat smile light up her face? The romance for the rest of the day is guaranteed.

Option 3
Dating a tech geek? Surprise your significant other with the latest gizmo— laptops, iPhones or a home theatre system.

RS 15000 DATE

Option-1
Rejuvenate at a nice spa. Park Hotel has a special spa for couples. Sink into a whirlpool bath while you share a bottle of sparkling wine with your date in a private room. Get customised facials, body polishes and therapies.

Option-2
A short weekend getaway is a great option at this price. A quick check with a travel guide and you can be all set to drive off to Mandarmani or Shankarpur. Or, you can take the overnight train to New Jalpaiguri and drive to the North Bengal hills— Darjeeling, Kurseong or Kalimpong.

Option 3
Book a table for two at a five-star restaurant or hit the latest night spot in town. Dress up, let your hair down and party through the night with your beloved.

RS 1000 DATE

Option 1
Plan a day at home with your beloved. Buy a bottle of wine and whip up an interesting dish—preferably together. Then you can cook up anything else that suits your fancy.

Option 2
Go for some impromptu shopping— although, with this amount, there will be more window shopping done. But pick up one gift that shows you care.

Option 3
Head straight for a multiplex after office and watch the latest flick together. Follow it up with a long, romantic drive.

RS 100 DATE

Option 1
Watch your favourite movie on DVD with your loved one. It hardly pinches the pocket, but is a great way to spend time together.

Option 2
You can never go wrong with a gift of chocolate, straight from the heart.

Option 3
Going together to an art gallery or an exhibition can be a nice way to spend a day. Sipping a cup of tea at the Academy of Fine Arts premises can be relaxing.

[by Elora Sen]